Things to avoid as a lawyer – making a good lawyer

There are numerous plagues all lawyers should avoid – things that if they could keep their hands off, could see them all smiles most of the time. Some of these things are hard to abandon – ones you get hooked, you’ll feel trapped in a maze and you might end up an unhappy lawyer if you don’t find your way out fast.

Don’t use your client’s money as if it’s your own – in other words, falling for the temptation to keep more money than you services can bargain for, leading you on the verge of being declared bankrupt.

Missing court sessions (e.g. if you are a defence lawyer) or showing up late, infuriating your client is somehow a disgrace to the profession.

At times one may fail to differentiate between the client and the lawyer, when the client seems to know what should be done leaving the confused lawyer sweating profusely. Do enough research and consultation. Shine, don’t wait to be outshined.

Are you quickly falling for greed? If your first priority is money (and lots of it) and second comes trailing your profession, your hands may end up touching ‘blood money’ which is always accompanied by a bullet that can do nothing but spill your blood all over your car seat in case you don’t abide by the wishes of its owners – remember their wish is always your command.

Get updated and weigh the moral implications of human law to the society in general.

Lawyers as social engineers should also give back to the society, for example, by sensitizing the people on various important aspects of laws, basic things like human rights, criminal and civil procedure, among other things.

A lawyer should try hard to avoid the many pitfalls known to them, apart from the ones listed above – that is if they want peace and value happiness.

To guarantee satisfaction to the clients, lawyers have no other option but to avoid the little baits that’ll whisk (away) their happiness.

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How to become a good radio presenter

After listening to the way some radio presenters do their act in Kenyan FM radio stations, I decided to compile some dos and don’ts that may help any prospective radio presenters as well as those already in the field become good radio presenters.

There are various things that should be embraced and some avoided at all costs to make a good radio presenter. Let’s take a look at some of them.
I’ll be using examples from the Kenyan radio stations that has been manifested with the rise of FM radio stations (that also broadcast their shows on the internet)

If you’ve been listening to the way local radio presenters try ‘hard’ to make their shows ‘interesting’ definitely you’ve noticed where they go wrong and never seem to stop.

Some talk too much about sex – almost in all their shows, till listeners wonder whether there aren’t any other topics worthy talking about. Imagine talking about sex five days in a week – at least two hours a day, often in a way that disintegrates what’s considered morally upright? And then they end up showing youngsters the wrong path to success (though some may end up defending themselves that an eighteen year old knows what’s best for him/her, underestimating the fact that even children are avid listeners to their shows). I think telling people to go and drink and party come Friday and all weekend is not right. A youngster trusting what an adult says may end up picking up the habit of drinking, and even stretch it too far. Don’t you presenters know that most of the listeners trust whatever you say? Joking on serious issues doesn’t make one a good radio presenter either. Use jokes wisely.

And who likes listening to a radio presenter who ends up using more than a third of a show’s duration talking about themselves – Talking about the drama surrounding their lives, their mother, sister, brother, angry dog and the green designer dress they bought, things that in them lack sense. Yes, a radio presenter can talk about him/herself but in a way that’s appealing to the listeners – touching on experiences they too undergo.

Now I want the radio presenters to give me an ear (if they wish). As a radio presenter you should steer away from bias. I think most of us are familiar with presenters saying: ‘ODM is bad’, ‘PNU is bad’, ‘this tribe should be taught a lesson’ not realizing what a grave mistake they are making. The listeners trusting such words arm themselves, kill innocent citizens while the presenters laugh in the studio.

Lines like: ‘…it has to be like this’, ‘it must be done this way’, and ‘I know how to deal with that ’should be used cautiously. As a radio presenter, only your opinions will suffice. Instead use ‘I think it should be…’, ‘what if…?’, ‘Do you think it’s right to do/deal with it this way?’, and ‘what do you think…?’

Use language appropriately. Avoid too much slang – the type that takes off your head the professional hat. Try hard to adhere to rules of grammar. Speak English properly. Be natural. Be real – that’ll show to the listeners how much you cherish them. Try your level best to fluently bond with the listeners. Trying hard to adhere to rules of grammar, phonetics and a spending some reasonable time practicing what you’re going to let out of your mouth will help in limiting the ‘pardon me’ and ‘I’m sorry’ phrases when you present news.

During phone-ins do you mind how you bond with your listeners? Some listeners can easily sense arrogance and rudeness even when you’re out of sight. Are you always detached from the listeners? Impolitely interrupt them when they are expressing their opinions on air? Or are you the kind that call listeners names and belittle them?

Kenyan FM stations through the radio presenters have immensely contributed towards sensitizing and enlightening citizens on critical issues affecting the society. Radio has played a big role in the fight against HIV/AIDS, STIs, constitutional and human rights issues. Thanks. But on the contrary, it’s undoubtedly easy to notice how some few radio personalities go against this worthy cause, misleading listeners. And worst of all, they are not even sorry for what they do.

So do you think media freedom should also be used to mislead listeners? According to you, what makes a good radio presenter?

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UPCOMING KENYAN WRITERS

Young people like me have always tried hard to break the veil into the world of authorship. We want to put all the words our imaginations and creativity can afford but always there are challenges on the way.

One big challenge every young writer should challenge is the fear to write more and more. To creatively stain pages with lots of imaginations. An example is where you start writing a novel, and everyday of the week you dedicate some minute towards that cause. After a few months, when you are midway through, you take the rough draft and keep it far away from you.Timeclock does not stop to tick anyway. Your novel remains unclothed, perhaps because you’ve lost hope of ever getting published, you’ve been discouraged by your own siblings or parents or your book proposal has been rejected.

I just wanted to share with you, fellow aspiring writers, that you are not alone. We’ve to stand up strong and keep the pen on paper. At the end you’ll have made a great leap towards your dream. That’s it!

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HOW TO FOSTER A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR TEEN SONS AND DAUGHTERS

There is one issue that most parents dread, and as you have already seen from the title above, the issue is: How to foster a good relationship with your teen daughter(s) or son(s).

Many parents end up frustrated after they fail in their endeavor to foster a good and working relationship with their teen sons and daughters. And guess who looses at the end of it all? You, the teen in question, and let me say humanity too.

Let’s go through different ways on how to do this. I promise that I will later come back with more detailed views on this issue. This blog is just intended for a quick read and fast comprehension and application of the views to be listed. Okay?

1. Grant us our freedom but don’t overdo it, I mean don’t give too much freedom that you can’t control later. Take risks that you can handle dear parents. Stay in charge. Stay in control. The teens may hate your strict attitude but trust me; they’ll appreciate what you are doing in the next 48 hours, 1 week, months, or year. They may even come and thank you personally (just be patient)

2. Don’t shout when you are angry with whatever we’ve done. This is just a ticket to a shouting contest between your teen children and you. Some of them will love it. Stay in control of your emotions.

3. Correct your children. At times teens hate being corrected but if you don’t, they’ll take advantage of this ‘weakness’ to instill fear in you.

4. Pray together as a family. Have time to chat with your teen children on various issues that will make them a more confident and better person. Study the Bible together.

5. Don’t share, with your neighbors, what the teens tell you in a way that ends up hurting them. (teens)

6. Teach them (teens) how to relate well with the opposite sex.

7. Encourage the teens to work hard in school and in other useful projects. Don’t shout at us: “You good for nothing, foolish, one bearded teen”. It hurts and only serves to tear you apart.

8. Seek our opinions (For your information: I’m also teen) on certain things concerning the family. The final decision though rests with you. 9. Don’t smoke, drink and watch excessive TV and tell us not to do the same. Few teens will understand and distance themselves from such behaviors. 10. Let’s not find you’re cheating on mum (or mommy cheating on daddy). It makes us sick, angry. Some of us seek to erase such knowledge but end up doing things wrong.

And finally device a way that can confirm to you that whatever right thing you’ve taught, works even if you are not around. I wrote this blog because I want my parents to help me become a better person and I thought that sharing it out with other parents will just make more families happy.Remember that whenever you are there for us, you’ll be in control of the best interests of your son or daughter – to let them stick and strive to do things in the right way

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BECOMING 18 IN KENYA – Getting your national ID

Eighteen to most people is an age that many people really yearn for. Some equate it to freedom to do whatever they want. Some extinguish the fears of being caught by police driving daddy’s car without a driving license. Some even enjoy permitting liquor to ruin their lives or opening a ‘big’ bank account. But it comes with a lot of price. I just want to consider some.
Do you remember the process you went through to get a national ID? You should. Some of us came out of the D.O’s offices, after the vetting, with their future wives and husbands. Others just made friends and others came out of the place very bitter.
This year (on 9th September) I went to apply for a national ID. We had to go through a vetting process because according to an official, “our district was less than 30 kilometers from a neighbouring country”. I hope he was right.
The vetting committee headed by the DO (District Officer), also included his secretary, chiefs and assistant chiefs. Armed with some paper identifications, a parent’s ID photocopy, baptismal card etc, we had to wait in long queues below the scorching sun, females in one queue and the males in another. Then? We waited for an hour for the exercise to begin.
An officer picked 10 young Kenyans, the first lot to undergo the vetting exercise. I was amongst the ten. The man blurted out
“Fanyeni haraka! Hatuna muda wa kupoteza!” (Time’s not on our hand. Better do things quick)
Do you think this was justified?
The next thing…we were in the office, in front the committee. The D.O had to first check your documents, and then ask the committee whether they do recognize you or not – this of course was the job of the chiefs and their assistants.
The answer was either a ‘no’ or a ‘yes’. A ‘no’ meant you had to leave the office and come back for the next exercise in two weeks time to start all over once more. A ‘yes’ allowed you to pick an application form, head straight to get your fingerprints on it and fill the other details.
The seventh person was almost done and I hated some of the questions they (the seven) had asked. It was my turn. The D.O politely asked me: “what’s your name kijana?” while scrutinizing my birth certificate and my parents’ national ID photocopies.
“Anyone who knows this boy?” He asked
My village chief answered to the affirmative only to be asked by a member of the committee: “Do people speak any English in that village?”
“Why not? What does he think?” I thought.
Some members laughed. I did not like that. Anyway my silence played that part well. “Silence” the D.O ordered. His wish was their command.
My fingerprints were taken. It left my thumbs black. I liked the new look – initiating me to the legal age (though I was a year older at the time)
We left the forms at the D.O’s office. We were told to come back on 11th to take photographs.
I went back to grandpa, and ate my cold food.
By 10.00 a.m, 11th, September, the process was too slow. Here we also had to undergo the fingerprint exercise once more, this time – all the fingers turned black. One of the officers doing this was, I guess, short tempered. He slapped a young Kenyan on his back. I had to wait until 4.00 p.m to get my waiting card. All this while, my stomach kept playing tunes of distress. I made friends too.
From the discussions by the various applicants most of them said that they were proud to be Kenyans though it was a daunting task being a Kenyan. To get to the Kenya ‘that we want’, government officials should learn to relate well with the citizens and not keep on saying “shauri yako” to the future (and may be current) tax payers. Becoming 18 in Kenya’s hard but it’s me and you to stop these ills. God bless Kenya.

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TOURISM IN KENYA – Kenya, your preferred tourist destination

Lots of things have been said about tourism in Kenya. Kenya is a good tourist destination. You’ll surely love your stay in Kenya Believe me.

You may love tour In Maasai Mara Game Reserve, which is a wildlife reserve in East Africa..You’ll enjoy your tour in Maasai Mara – watching the annual wildbeest migration would be fun. Your family may love it. Kenya welcomes you so long as you follow its laws, so visitng Maasai Mara Won’t hurt.
If you would like more information concerning Maasai Mara, you may visit http://tourism.go.ke ,Kenya’s Ministry of Tourism Website. You’ll find lots of info.

You can also visit http://maasaimara.com  to see lots of nice stuff for you.
What about Lake Nakuru National Park? Nakuru means a waterbuck haven. Check out flamingoes, in this Soda lake in Kenya.There are also buffaloes, giraffes, dik-diks, rhinos and a whole lot more. If you wish to make your safari vacation plan to Kenya easy, I guess the services and info at http://africanmeccasafaris.com (African Mecca Safaris) will be of help to you.

I wish you A nice time.

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What's The Appropriate Age For Having Sex

The law at times amuse me – imagine the disadvantage the popular presumption that ‘a 12 year old is incapable of carnal knowledge’ has done towards the society’s efforts to reduce the rates of sexual perversion.

Most boys ‘enjoy’ sexual intercourse with willing or unwilling victims while they clearly understand the consequences of their actions. The law may deem them ‘the inexperienced lot in this arena of sexual intercourse’ but the truth is they only get satisfied from the small holes left by lawmakers. They exploit the weaknesses of the legislature, and it seems like no one is even caring mending the little holes – in a manner reasonable.

Twelve years! I think that’s too high. Nine may do, may be eight.

Some people have exploited this weakness to surprisingly high levels. One refrains from sex on his 12th birthday but still considers himself a virgin the night of his wedding. So, many people get into marriage when they’d lost their virginity decades ago, the law makes them virgins somehow but the truth makes them what they really are – non-virgins.

I wish to conclude by affirming the old command – ‘flee fornication’. Enjoy sex with your wife, in marriage.

What do you think?

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Who’s Going to be the next superpower

Have you ever given this idea a thought? Many people will say that it is a lame and an unfounded thought, short of even being called an idea – a concrete idea for that matter. I believe that USA might one day loose the title ‘the world superpower’ to some other country no one knows of, I mean you can’t tell which country will take over.

Remember human rule has never been perfect. It can’t be static, it never has been anyway. Some country at the moment is secretly working to get that coveted title, to take over the world – to push its agenda to the highest position possible.

Some will come closer to sitting on that coveted throne, but fail to sit on it.

A raging war may ensue. A raging world war may leave so many cheeks wet with tears. It won’t be easy for the current super-power to concede defeat and that may se nuclear weapons killing cells and tissues on sight, leaving human flesh pale and plants into poor dead matter. The earth’s once quiet and lively sky may then forever remain gloomy.

I wanted to know if you also have that sort of disturbing feeling that we might face new challenges  with a new superpower in place.

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Unites States of Africa – Is it Possible to come up with a united Africa?


This is an idea that has received lots of opinions from different people worldwide, especially those dwelling in Africa.

The biggest question, which has never attracted any conclusive answer, is whether Africa can be headed by one person (apart from the leaders that will head each state) if at all the countries agreed to unite.

Is it possible? Can it be realized, soon? Yes, may be no. Those championing for a United States of Africa have to tell us why this union is important – and whether it will be beneficial to every man, woman and child of the continent, Africa.

My take is that we should all be under an imaginary US of Africa of love, hope and logic but with independent countries, each with its own ruler, without ever relinquishing their powers to one ruler.

We should not have one person heading Africa. This is one task only God, the Almighty can handle. We don’t want all the African countries to fall in a trap of sickness and deceit. When all the countries are on their own, the healthy countries can help nurse the sick countries. But when all the countries become sick, all at once (because of a bad decision made by one person) Africa dies.

Would you fall for a United States of Africa? Can such a union make Africa’s future bright? I’d say no. And how many are ready for such a union?

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Are Your New Year Resolutions Working?


It has been a hard task walking the thirty five days, to reach this far – almost in the middle of a second month.

One question though—are your goals already proving hard to attain, or are things working your way…going on as you had anticipated?

Have you discovered your weaknesses and strengths and developed measures to strengthen your weak points?

I believe all of us would like to walk through February in style – in other words, with a more open and focused minds, than we did last year, all in a bid to become better persons and be of service to the people around us.

So…are you still passionate about cutting down on alcohol expenditure, saving more money to fund your business ideas, stay by your wife or husband, create more time for your family, cut on the number of hours you spend in front of the TV or on Facebook?

Are you getting closer to your goals or a rift is tearing you apart? What do you think will help a person inch closer to his goals as the days vanish? What will make you a better person this year?

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